Psychotherapy for Individuals, Couples, & Families

Because life comes with obstacles. Therapy can help.

Linda J. Engelman, Marriage and Family Therapist

Linda Engelman, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
San Ramon, California

Telehealth Sessions Throughout California, Hawaii, Oregon, and Nevada

Relationship Counseling  |  Individual Therapy  |  Affairs & Infidelity  |  Men in Therapy
Tele-Health Sessions  |  Fees  |  Articles  |  Webinars/Trainings

Stuck in never-ending cycles of frustrating communication?

Anxious that therapy will take too long to work?

Worried that therapy is just a bandaid?

Looking for a therapist who does more than a lot of head nodding?

{ Not All Therapy is The Same }

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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a powerful modality that often works faster and has longer-lasting results than other types of therapeutic models. Clients typically experience shifts in their relationships very early on in the therapy process.

Together, we will address the issues that are most frequently at the root of relationship distress:

*How much do I matter to you?
*Do you really have my back?
*Can I trust you?
*Do you value me?
*Are you impacted by the things I feel and say?
*If I reach out to you, will you be there for me?


{ Sessions With Me Are Different }

EFT is a very interactive process, and aside from that, I happen to be a very interactive therapist. This means that a lot happens in a single session. You won't get just a lot of head nodding from me. I keep things moving along, edging towards your goals, calling you on things that are in conflict with what you say you want, and helping guide you to a place where you can experience the "aha" moments that make therapy an amazing experience. You and I will both work hard during our sessions together, and you'll leave my office with plenty to think about and explore.

{ How Does It Work? }

Emotionally Focused Therapy is backed empirically -- more than two decades of scientific research showing that over 90% of couples improve their level of satisfaction in the relationship after completing therapy with an EFT trained therapist. Between 70 to 73% of couples recover on standard measures of marital distress and the relapse rate is very low.

This is not your ordinary couples therapy. EFT provides a clear framework and map for repairing relationships. It stems from the premise that we are all hard-wired for attachment. When we lose connection and can no longer turn to our partner for nurturing and soothing, we often experience high levels of distress, leading us to either withdraw (shut down) or demand/escalate/fight/act out. These behaviors further fuel the distress causing couples to spiral into relationship trauma.

EFT offers a way out.

Whether you come for individual sessions, or as a couple, you will learn how to resolve the pain and hurt; have emotional interactions with your partner that serve as corrective bonding experiences; and break the repetitive patterns that block intimacy and safe, secure connection.

Contact Me for a Confidential Appointment:

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“It is a mistake for anyone to think he has lived too long in his old, unsatisfactory ways to make the great change. If you switch on the light in a dark room, it makes no difference how long it was dark because the light will still shine. Be teachable. That is the whole secret.”
~ Vernon Howard

Couples / Relationship Therapy

  • De-escalating conflict
  • Stopping the negative cycle of repetitive arguing
  • Figuring out what to do when you feel like you've "fallen out of love" or "have just become roommates"
  • Having your partner hear/understand those moments when you felt abandoned by him/her
  • Recovering from affairs/infidelity - Read More About This
  • Regaining secure, safe attachment with your partner
  • Finding or re-discovering passion together
  • Experiencing a deeper level of intimacy
  • Learning new ways of communicating your needs
  • Heading off arguments before they become painful and hurtful

"Emotional dependence is not immature or pathological; it is our greatest strength."
~Dr. Sue Johnson, Developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy

Individual Therapy

  • Stress/Trauma
  • Social Phobias
  • Life transitions
  • Existential issues (what's my life about? where is the meaning? is this all there is? why do these things keep happening to me?)
  • Intimacy/communication problems
  • Desire to create more satisfying relationships
  • Chronic pain or illness
  • Self-esteem issues
  • Grief / Bereavement

Affairs and Infidelity

  • Crisis counseling after the early stages of affair discovery
  • Helping the betrayed partner have a safe space to tell his/her story, while the betraying partner listens
  • Helping the betrayed partner to manage the initial feelings of shock, anger, fear, vulnerability, loneliness
  • Helping the betraying partner to manage the initial feelings of overwhelm, shame, panic, anxiety
  • Understanding the process of recovery, what to expect, how to cope
  • Understanding the how/why the affair happened
  • Gaining clarity on the steps that are necessary to build trust and safety again
  • ....and more.

"The first and foremost instinct of humans is neither sex nor aggression. It is to connect."
~Dr. Sue Johnson, Developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy

Choosing a Psychotherapist is a Very Personal Decision.

The confidential relationship that you have with your therapist should be one in which you feel heard, understood, and safe. I recognize that each client is unique and I remain flexible in the way that I work.

My Credentials:

  • Master's Degree, Counseling Psychology
    John F. Kennedy University, Pleasant Hill (East Bay, Contra Costa County), CA
  • Externship Training with Dr. Sue Johnson: Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT): An Attachment-Based Perspective For Healing Relationships


Individual Weekly Sessions: $215 (50-minutes)

Couples Weekly Sessions: $345 (80-minutes)

Couples Intensives: Offering 2-3 day Intensive Therapy Sessions for Clients in Crisis - call for pricing

Good Faith Estimate

You have the right to receive a “Good Faith Estimate” explaining how much your medical care will cost. Please request this estimate verbally or in writing. Read about the "No Surprises Act" (passed by Congress in 2021), and your right as a patient to a "Good Faith Estimate."

ZOOM (Tele-Health) Therapy

Tele-Health (Video) therapy sessions for clients who live anywhere within the states of California, Oregon, Hawaii, and Nevada. Fees are paid by Credit Card. The therapist will charge your card via IvyPay (a HIPAA-compliant therapy payment system).

The Obstacle Is The Path

Every challenging situation in our lives presents us with an opportunity -- to gain insight, to enrich our understanding of ourselves and others, to seek purpose in our lives, or to create more satisfying relationships.

Contact Me for a Confidential Appointment:

Contact Linda Engelman, Marriage & Family Therapist

Linda J. Engelman
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

MFC#46255 (State of California)
MFT#T2232 (State of Oregon)
MFC-786 (State of Hawaii)
MFT 4475-R (State of Nevada)

Professional Affiliations:
ICEEFT - International Center for Excellent in Emotionally Focused Therapy
California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists (CAMFT)
East Bay California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists
American Association of Marriage & Family Therapists (AAMFT) Clinical Fellow

AAMFT Clinical Fellow

Office located in San Ramon, California - Contra Costa County, East Bay Area
Sessions available via Telehealth for Clients in the states of California, Oregon, Nevada and Hawaii.

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