Psychotherapy for Individuals, Couples, & Families

Because life comes with obstacles. Therapy can help.

Linda Engelman, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Office Location: San Ramon, California
Telehealth Sessions Throughout the States of California, Hawaii, and Oregon

Relationship Counseling | Individual Therapy | Affairs & Infidelity  |  Men in Therapy
Tele-Health Sessions | Fees | Articles | Webinars/Trainings

Take a Deep Breath...

You've Made It Here...

You've Taken That First Step

Finding a therapist isn't always easy. As with many professional relationships, it's important to find someone you will "click with"; someone who will treat your struggles gently and with respect and understanding. You want that, and I want that for you as well.

In my private practice, I work closely with my clients as they share their deepest and most vulnerable thoughts and experiences. In the privacy and confidentiality of my office, you will explore and navigate your life's twists and turns. I am always honored and humbled to be a part of that process. I strive to treat my clients with the respect, non-judgement, and genuine concern that I would offer to my own family.

{ What To Expect }

I am a very interactive therapist, which means you will get more than a lot of head nodding from me. I keep things moving along, edging towards your goals, calling you on things that are in conflict with what you say you want, and helping guide you to a place where you can experience the "aha" moments that make therapy an amazing experience. You and I will both work hard during our sessions together, and you'll leave my office with plenty to think about and explore.

As we journey through life, we all bump up against obstacles, old patterns, deep unresolved hurts, and newly discovered vulnerabilities.

Therapy can make a difference with issues such as:

  • Existential intersections, roadblocks and detours:
    • what's my life about?
    • where is the meaning?
    • is this all there is?
    • why do these things keep happening to me?
    • middle age: what now?

  • Stress and Trauma:
    • coping with crisis
    • living with ongoing stressors
    • making sense of old traumas

  • Social Phobias

  • Life transitions: marriage, children, illness, job loss, death, empty nest, moving, new relationships, step-parenting

  • Intimacy/communication problems: (see Relationships/Couples section of Web site)

  • Desire to create more satisfying relationships

  • Chronic pain or illness

  • Self-esteem issues

  • Grief / Bereavement

For Men: Issues Unique to You

As a male growing up in our society, you have been taught many things about what it means to "be a man." Some of these things may include squashing your emotional self, and being strong ("the rock") for your family. Men suffer with high rates of depression and anxiety that can often be linked to these old messages of having to shut down disappointment, overwhelm, sadness, and fear. If you're like many men, you have been taught that it's bad/weak to be "needy" and that it's unmanly to talk about (or show) your emotions.

For you, therapy is a place to explore these societal, cultural, or familial expectations. Perhaps this is the time in your life when you're ready to question what you've always believed, and to finally have a safe space to talk about your inner world — your unique stressors, desires, longings for belonging and attachment.

The choices you are making in your life have a lot to do with the models for attachment that you grew up with. How you saw your parents treat each other; whether or not they were a source of comfort for you; the messages they gave you about the role of men in relationships — all of these things are at play here and now, perhaps creating conflict or unmet needs for closeness. Therapy is not about "blaming" the past; rather, it is a place where you can put together pieces of a puzzle that can help guide you in the present, leading you to resolving long-lasting patterns that keep you from having the life you want.

Contact Me for a Confidential Appointment:

Contact Linda Engelman, Marriage & Family Therapist

"It is a mistake for anyone to think he has lived too long in his old, unsatisfactory ways to make the great change. If you switch on the light in a dark room, it makes no difference how long it was dark because the light will still shine. Be teachable. That is the whole secret."
~ Vernon Howard

Couples / Relationship Therapy

Information for Couples About Relationship and Marriage Counseling >>

Choosing a Psychotherapist is a Very Personal Decision.

The confidential relationship that you have with your therapist should be one in which you feel heard, understood, and safe. I recognize that each client is unique and I remain flexible in the way that I work.

My Credentials:

  • Master's Degree, Counseling Psychology
    John F. Kennedy University, Pleasant Hill (East Bay, Contra Costa County), CA
  • Externship Training with Dr. Sue Johnson: Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT): An Attachment-Based Perspective For Healing Relationships


Individual sessions: $215 (50-minutes)

Couples sessions: $345 (80-minutes)

Therapy is generally once per week, although crisis times may be best served by more frequent therapy. I am currently accepting new clients and look forward to speaking with you.


I am an out-of-network provider which means that you may or may not be able to receive some reimbursement, depending on your provider and your plan. I DO NOT offer insurance billing; however I am happy to provide you with a monthly receipt for your sessions. That receipt will include a diagnosis code, and everything necessary for your insurance company to process the claim, if they cover out-of-network providers. Note that many insurance providers do NOT reimburse for couples therapy.

Tele-Health Therapy

I offer ONLINE therapy sessions for clients who live within the state of California. The fees for online sessions are the same as for in-person sessions, and are paid credit card, using the HIPAA-compliant therapist payment system called IvyPay.

The Obstacle Is The Path

Every challenging situation in our lives presents us with an opportunity -- to gain insight, to enrich our understanding of ourselves and others, to seek purpose in our lives, or to create more satisfying relationships.

Contact Me for a Confidential Appointment:

Contact Linda Engelman, Marriage & Family Therapist

Linda J. Engelman
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

MFC#46255 (State of California)
MFT#T2232 (State of Oregon)
MFC-786 (State of Hawaii)

Professional Affiliations:
ICEEFT - International Center for Excellent in Emotionally Focused Therapy
California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists (CAMFT)
East Bay California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists

Office located in San Ramon, California - Contra Costa County, East Bay Area
Sessions available via Telehealth for Clients in the states of Oregon and Hawaii.

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