 LINDA J. ENGELMAN
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
San Ramon, California
Telehealth Sessions Throughout California, Hawaii, Oregon, and Nevada
925.295.1036
Relationship Counseling | Individual Therapy | Affairs & Infidelity | Men in Therapy
Tele-Health Sessions | Fees | Articles | Webinars/Trainings
Affairs and Infidelity
- Crisis counseling after the early stages of affair discovery
- Helping the betrayed partner have a safe space to tell his/her story, while the betraying partner listens
- Helping the betrayed partner to manage the initial feelings of shock, anger, fear, vulnerability, loneliness
- Helping the betraying partner to manage the initial feelings of overwhelm, shame, panic, anxiety
- Understanding the process of recovery, what to expect, how to cope
- Understanding the how/why the affair happened
- Gaining clarity on the steps that are necessary to build trust and safety again
- ....and more.
"The first and foremost instinct of humans is neither sex nor aggression. It is to connect."
~Dr. Sue Johnson, Developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy
HOW DOES IT WORK?
Emotionally Focused Therapy is backed empirically -- more than two decades of scientific research showing that over 90% of couples improve their level of satisfaction in the relationship after completing therapy with an EFT trained therapist. Between 70 to 73% of couples recover on standard measures of marital distress and the relapse rate is very low.
This is not your ordinary couples therapy. EFT provides a clear framework and map for repairing relationships. It stems from the premise that we are all hard-wired for attachment. When we lose connection and can no longer turn to our partner for nurturing and soothing, we often experience high levels of distress, leading us to either withdraw (shut down) or demand/escalate/fight/act out. These behaviors further fuel the distress causing couples to spiral into relationship trauma.
EFT offers a way out.
Whether you come for individual sessions, or as a couple, you will learn how to resolve the pain and hurt; have emotional interactions with your partner that serve as corrective bonding experiences; and break the repetitive patterns that block intimacy and safe, secure connection.
Affairs & Infidelity: Some Reading to Get Started...
- Healing From An Affair?
Speed Recovery Time by 'Bringing It Up' ($2.99)
by Linda J. Engelman, Licensed MFT, ©2024
(PDF Format Article - Viewable with Adobe Acrobat)
EXCERPT: "I told Barry and Glenda, as I have told so many other couples, that to repair, to go through the steps of recovery, one of the most helpful things that Barry could do to help his wife would be to learn "THE ART OF 'BRINGING IT UP.' This is quite a scary thing to say to someone in Barry's situation. Bringing it up is the last thing that the one who went astray wants to do."
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- After An Affair: What To Expect In The Early Phase of Couples Therapy ($2.99)
by Linda J. Engelman, Licensed MFT, ©2024
(PDF Format Article - Viewable with Adobe Acrobat)
EXCERPT: Your partner has had an affair. You're devastated and trying to figure
out how to move forward, whether to stay or leave, how to breathe
again. Perhaps you never saw it coming, or perhaps you have
suspected for a long time. You're swinging back and forth from hating
your partner to desperately wanting him/her to hold and comfort you...
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- When Your Partner Says: "You Just Don't Get It!" ($2.99)
by Linda J. Engelman, Licensed MFT, ©2024
(PDF Format Article - Viewable with Adobe Acrobat)
EXCERPT: Attachment theory supposes that we are able to become securely and safely attached to those who are sensitive and responsive to our needs. What exactly does that mean? In part, it means that when we gaze into the eyes of the other, we sense that what we’re saying matters, that we are valued. That we can count on the other to be a safe base, over and over again, not just intermittently...
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Contact Me To Get Started:
925.295.1036
linda_engelman@bayarea-therapist.com
Linda J. Engelman
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
MFC#46255 (State of California)
MFT#T2232 (State of Oregon)
MFC-786 (State of Hawaii)
MFT 4475-R (State of Nevada)
Confidential Voicemail
925.295.1036
Professional Affiliations:
ICEEFT - International Center for Excellent in Emotionally Focused Therapy
California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists (CAMFT)
East Bay California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists
Office located in San Ramon, California - Contra Costa County, East Bay Area
Sessions available via Telehealth for Clients in the states of California, Oregon, Hawaii and Nevada.
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